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You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think by A.A. Milne
You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think
A.A. Milne
In 2012 the Victorian Government cut $300m in funding from the TAFE sector and Robyn was retrenched so she understands the emotions and anxiety that this raises. In Shanghai the business was closed and again Robyn needed to rediscover herself. Robyn can help you not only survive these tough times but thrive.
As a mother of 3 adult children, Robyn looks back on her time raising small children and wishes she had learnt self-awareness and empathy as she would have understood herself and her children’s needs better.
After being married for 39 years having the courage to be vulnerable can be harder with the people you love. You are set in your ways and patterns are well established. But we can learn and choose to change and continually make our relationships better. It’s never too late.
Transition to Retirement or Retrenchment
Problem
- Are you considering retirement or being retrenched?
- Thinking about what am I going to do?
- Who am I if I’m not working there?
- Worried about your choices?
Solution
Our activities help you gain clarity about :-
- who you are and what is important to you?
- what are your strengths?
- what are your values?
- where do you want to be?
- What choices do you have
Result – You will feel much more that relived. You will feel excited and inspired to start the next phase of your life.
Story
In 2012, my husband and I both lost our jobs within 2 days of each other. It was upsetting but I made a decision not to react and take any job available. I paused and thought that this was my time to think about what I’d really want to do. I had envied family and friends who had worked overseas and as our children were all living in Melbourne attending university we decided to move to China to work. Did it take courage and optimism? Yes. We lived in Beijing then in Shanghai for nearly 7 years and it was amazing, working, travelling and being exposed to this culture that was so different to our country town life. It’s easy to do what you have always done, do what’s expected of you or what you think you ‘should’ do, but now is the time to live the life you want to live. 4evatraining offers a way for you to discover what will bring JOY to your life. You deserve to feel confident and energised to choose what is next for you.
Parenting
You know I wish I had been more emotionally intelligent when I was a young mum. As I look back at some of their toddler tantrums, I could have handled them so much better. If I had been more empathetic, looked at my children’s feelings and not just mine, recognised my triggers and patterns and made better choices on what was really important – our relationship. After our children moved to Melbourne to attend university, my husband and I moved to China for 7 years where I delivered training to educators and parents based on emotional intelligence. This helped me develop my EQ skills which improved my leadership skills, my relationships and made me happier.
According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, socially & emotionally competent children:
Are confident
Have good relationships
Communicate well
Do better at school
Take on and persist with challenging task
Develop the necessary relationships to succeed in life.
Isn’t this what you want for your child?
Problem
You’re tired of having the same old arguments. Why don’t they listen and how do they know how to hit my buttons!
Solution
Learn how you can use empathy to see their side and teach your child’s emotional literacy. When they can name how they are feeling the more they can understand what the feeling is telling them and thus manage it better. Name it to Tame it. Become a role model for you child
Result
1. You and your child will feel more in control of your emotions
2. Children will show empathy to others
3. They will be more confident and have better relationships with family, friends and teachers
4. Become resilient & persistence at tasks
5. Have better wellbeing
Story
When I was training the skills of emotional intelligence to educators and parents in China, I would receive feedback telling me how amazed they were on their child’s development.
- Children showing empathy to teachers and friends
- Packing away their toys
- Feeding themselves, putting away their dishes, dressing themselves
- Having the confidence & persistence to jump over small heights and over long distances.
- Having the confidence to speak English in front of the class
And these children were 2 – 3 years of age! It’s never too late to develop your emotional intelligence skills and by learning and practicing it yourself you will be a good role model for your children.
Relationships
Outline
1. 45% of your day is already predetermined by habits. (Good, Great, Perfect- Dr Rebecca Ray)
2. What % of your habits are adversely affecting your relationships? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Problem
1. That person always makes me so angry!
2. They just don’t understand
3. They won’t listen
4. We have the same old arguments
5. Do you regret saying something the moment it comes out of your mouth
Solution
1. Understand what your feelings are telling you
2. Recognise what makes you ‘snap’
3. Observe when you react on Autopilot so you can choose to Respond appropriately
4. When you change other’s change
5. Find out what’s going underneath your iceberg
6. Listing your values
Result
1. Better relationships
2. Happier
3. Calm and less anxious
Story
Before learning about EQ I would only see my side of the argument with my husband and was frustrated by him not agreeing with me. I have been learning and practicing the EQ skills for 10 years now and have learnt about empathy, naming my emotions, looking at what is going on underneath my ‘iceberg’, and recognising my patterns and values. I can now be Courageous and Vulnerable when discussing matters. I can stay calm and if I react inappropriately, I can say “I want to have this conversation again” so I can respond more appropriately. I can listen to what my emotions are telling me, understand why it hurts, what values it is triggering so I can choose to respond better and this leads to having happier relationships for both of us.
In addition we offer:
EQ Gym
EQ Insights to Great Teachers
EQ Insights to People Management
Brain Profiles
Personal development webinars
